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So.... Can you hear, love?
Aug. 11th, 2009 08:04 pmMoving on to some more serious things today, as I talk a little bit about why G-cat and I have been two very lucky people. Every once in a while we pick up an excellent book on psychology and relationships and end up really *talking* to each other about the concepts. We certainly don't always agree on them, but if gives us a good starting place to get to know each other better.
Over time, we've managed to open up enough of each other's doors into our deepest thoughts. And a number of people seem surprised at the level of intimacy we share, even after all this time. "Cute," they call it -- but most relationships start off cute. And end up as something less; I know my own parents spiraled downhill with some fairly damaging results. So how do people get from "cute" to "cut-throat"?
What was described by Gary Chapman in his book "The Five Love Languages" is that people communicate their affection (both speaking it and understanding it) through differing channels: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.
( So let's talk about love languages. )
I'm sure that my language is "service" - I love to "do things" for people. It's the drive behind my love of cooking, and the fact that I get involved in things like the charity fundraisers. Having G-cat help me haul in the grocery bags or empty the dishwasher makes me giddy.
So... here's the Flist challenge: (you knew there had to be one!) Tell me what is your "primary" language? Do hugs warm you to the core? Or do you prefer gifts? How do *you* hear love?
Over time, we've managed to open up enough of each other's doors into our deepest thoughts. And a number of people seem surprised at the level of intimacy we share, even after all this time. "Cute," they call it -- but most relationships start off cute. And end up as something less; I know my own parents spiraled downhill with some fairly damaging results. So how do people get from "cute" to "cut-throat"?
What was described by Gary Chapman in his book "The Five Love Languages" is that people communicate their affection (both speaking it and understanding it) through differing channels: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.
( So let's talk about love languages. )
I'm sure that my language is "service" - I love to "do things" for people. It's the drive behind my love of cooking, and the fact that I get involved in things like the charity fundraisers. Having G-cat help me haul in the grocery bags or empty the dishwasher makes me giddy.
So... here's the Flist challenge: (you knew there had to be one!) Tell me what is your "primary" language? Do hugs warm you to the core? Or do you prefer gifts? How do *you* hear love?
